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BLOG FOR THE SOUL
Hi to everyone:
I decided to pick just a ‘simple’ theme this month due to the fact that being productive on the outer seems futile when I’m working with mercury retrograde. Doing my inner journeys and work is what seems most forefront, and I’ve learned to let go and just allow my process to move me rather than being in resistance or using control to hijack it. Wow! This only took me 27 years to learn. But hey! Sometimes the turtle crosses the line just in time.
And one of the things that I also really started to learn 27 years ago was about co-dependency. Now I realize that this is a real psychological buzz word, one that could fill the whole Congressional Library of Congress (which may be not such a bad idea considering how politicians act) with its different angles of behavior. Considering that so much has been written on it, I still wonder why it’s the top issue that I see appear in my office besides beliefs on separation from God/Creator/All That IS, God as an authority figure, and parents being the client’s God to them.
I remember one day while taking a workshop in Idaho with Vianna where she was saying how people have become very uncaring with entitlement issues, like the ‘Me’ generation. She continued, “I think everyone should be a little co-dependent so there is caring.”
I think my mouth dropped open, and I stopped breathing for a few seconds. I had done 12-Step groups like CoDa (Co-dependency Anonymous) and Adult Children of Alcoholics back in the 80’s and 90’s, and I knew this wasn’t a healthy, functional way to be. I don’t think that is what Vianna meant, but it felt like she didn’t have another word for not being so independent that there is a loss of connection.
I went up to her after class, gently put my arm around her shoulders, and bravely said, “Vianna, I don’t think you meant that people should be a little co-dependent. Do you mean interdependent?”
She was quiet, and then looked at me like a light bulb went off. “I like that…Yea, not co-dependent. Hmmm…interdependency.” And it’s been from that time on that we’ve been giving downloads about interdependency, what it is, what it feels like, how to be this way etc. We are all connected yet we act like we have nothing in common with each other (besides being ThetaHealers and humans).
Going back to co-dependency, as healing practitioners in general, I find that this issue is so prevalent that I wonder what Creator’s teachings we are using to support our clients in moving away from this. If we don’t understand or are not aware of the ramifications ourselves, I wonder how effective are we being as practitioners. I find it very important that we are actually doing some kind of extra reading and self-education on this topic (and any other that could come up in a session). Yes, we’re human, and perfection isn’t what I’m implying. But even realizing that some of the teachings we suggest could compound co-dependency if we aren't doing our work, makes it important to get our 'ducks-in-a-row'.
Look at beliefs like, 'I have to heal my family before I take care of myself', or 'My families needs supercede what I can create for myself,' or 'If I'm a priority in my life, my family will leave me or reject me,' and you can then start to understand that our issues will stop us from seeing how to work with our clients. It will also show us why we are in relationships in the present where we might not be appreciated, not heard or not seen. Staying within in the family structure and patterns will open up so much insight into the patterns. People often want to do spiritual bypassing by going to past lives to keep the feelings abay, but I find that this present life will carry a similr resonance pattern which can be found right in the family or childhood.
I’d like to define co-dependency and list some of the characteristics because it’s really broadbased and so thickly entrenched in our lives, relationships, healings and spirituality.
Co-dependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another and can develop into relationship addiction (serial monogamy being an example) From the early years when it was about people in relationship to alcohol or drug addicts in the family, it has evolved to describe any co-dependent person from any dysfunctional family. What we think is a healthy family often isn’t even close. I’m not saying there isn’t love but how that is expressed may not be what love is at all. How to communicate in healthy ways isn’t taught or learned. I think I’ve seen a healthy family unit once or twice in my life. I was so excited. I wonder that if there was ever a reality show on this, whether people would even watch it because there is so much addiction to drama and craziness.
A dysfunctional family is one in which members suffer from fear, anger, pain, or shame that is ignored or denied. These kinds of families have either spoken or unspoken rules that create havoc on the mental or emotional states of the members. And each member will respond in a different way usually…no one wants the same piece of pie so develops their own coping mechanism to survive.
As a result, children learn to repress emotions and disregard their own needs and thus develop coping behaviors and roles that help them deny, ignore, or avoid difficult emotions which are carried on as grown-ups. [And from what I’ve observed, I personally think there is a difference between a grown-up and an adult. For me, a grown–up has a big body and childhood coping patterns, and an adult is responsible for one’s actions without blaming oneself or another.]
In the family, there can be the helpless victim, the boundary-less one, the savior, the sacrificial lamb, the black sheep, the survivor, the listener, the talker, the pleaser, over-achiever, the peacekeeper, the hostage, the mediator, the critic, the judge, the perfectionist, the rebel, the boss, the enforcer, the controller, the hider, the bully, the teaser, the overly-responsible one, the giver, the do-gooder. (Did I miss any of these sub-personality roles?) Some of these may appear to be healthy functionality if the shadow aspects aren’t explored. What’s most important is to look at the motivation. You can be a pleaser, but if your underlying, subconscious motivation is to be loved or recognized by others for all you do and who you are, there is an issue about internalizing self-acceptance and self love. If you are always striving through over-achievement, which on the surface might appear to be a healthy thing, the word that flashes is ALWAYS, which shows an obligation. Perhaps if you slowed down, breathed and took time to yourself, there would be feelings that could arise. Sometimes just 'being' (funny how us humans tend to avoid this), can allow for those painful feelings that are being suppressed or repressed to make their way to the surface. Maybe you were told you were lazy when your grades weren’t up to your parents’ expectations. That could cause over-achievement. Maybe you were just expected to be 'good' and never crossed the line to see what was on the other side if you didn't fulfill your parents expectation of this, so you over-achieved. Striving to be the best we can be is different than being an over-achiever.
And by-the-way, not all expectations are unhealthy. I often see ‘spiritual’ placards on Facebook about not having any expectations so you won’t be disappointed. Rriigghht?! There are realistic/rational and irrational/unrealitic expectations. An example of an irrational/unrealistic expectation is expecting someone else to take care of your feelings or issues. Have you ever heard a parent say, “Why didn’t you clean up your brother’s mess when you saw it? How are you ever going to learn responsibility? What would happen if your friend came over and saw this mess? Do you notice how I go around and clean the home we all live in? Do I ever hear an appreciation?” What interesting beliefs are in that irrational/illogical expectation that the child learns which can develop into co-dependency? Maybe, “I’m expected to take care of my parent’s feelings in order to keep things peaceful and in order.” Notice the way the comments were delivered--manipulative, with guilt, projective, shaming, blaming, assumptive, demeaning and anger-based. What a child learns continues until it comes into their full consciousness.
A logical or rational expectation example is, “Please meet me in front of the school at 4 if you want a ride home. I'll wait for you for 5 minutes.” And then the parent shows up at the front gate and so does the child at 4 in fulfilling an agreement to get transportation. There are also clear boundaries with the time and time limit.
Just like in dissociation, codependency has a spectrum of severity in the amount of intensity it can get as opposed to an all or nothing scale. If you can answer many of these questions below as 'yes', I support you to look deeper into your possible co-dependency issues and do some clearing. You can make the questions into belief statements to dig on. (as an example on question #1, change to the belief of, ' I'm am always worried about others opinions of me.')
1. Are you always worried about others’ opinions of you?
2. Do you feel a need to fulfill others’ irrational expectations of you?
3. Do you routinely take the 5th amendment (keep quiet) to avoid arguments?
4. Are the opinions, ideas, and thoughts of others more important than your own?
5. Do you have difficulty adjusting to changes at work, relationships, or home?
6. Do you hold back from saying what you feel is true to avoid rocking the boat or being judged?
7. Are you uncomfortable expressing your true feelings to others?
8. Is keeping the status quo more important than being yourself in situations?
9. Do you doubt your ability to be who you want to be?
10. Do you give up or forfeit what you want to support others needs?
11. Do you have difficulty taking compliments or gifts?
12. In the majority of conversations with others, do you feel that what you have to say has little significance or worth?
13. Have you ever lived with someone who hits or belittles you?
14. Have you ever lived with someone with an alcohol/ drug problem or has been abusive?
15. Do you feel shame when you make a mistake or when someone close to you makes a mistake?
16. Is it easier to be nice or ‘good’ then to be real and authentic?
17. Is it easier to minimize or negate an issue than speak to it truthfully?
18. Do you frequently wish someone could help you get things done w/o asking for assistance?
19. Does asking for help make you feel ashamed or defeated?
20. Do you have trouble saying “no” when asked for help?
21. Do you feel rejected or abandoned when significant others spend time with friends?
22. Do you have so many things going at once that you can’t do justice to any of them?
23. Do you continually push yourself to perfection or exhaustion?
24. Do you keep constantly busy and feel guilty if you relax?
25. Do you give your time away constantly?
26. Are others’ values and opinions seen as more important than your own?
27. Do you give up your values in order to stay in a relationship?
28. Do others’ values or opinions become your own without clarifying what works for you?
29. Do you feel a need to respond to every comment that sounds attacking, demeaning, or adversarial?
30. Do you think that without your constant effort, people in your life will go downhill?
31. Do you have difficulty talking to people in authority, such as the police or your boss?
32. Do you feel that if you create what you want, you’ll deny others their right to be or create?
33. Have you given up what you really want in your life to feel financially stable?
34. Do you give up your power to another in order to have the finances to move forward?
35. Do you feel wrong or a failure if you change your mind on a situation?
We are moving into an evolutionary period where uniqueness, creating one’s own path to fulfill his/her destiny and co-creating with others are the ways to make the planetary shifts necessary to advance. Without fully addressing the co-dependent issues, we will feel like a rat in a cage spinning wheels which leads to more frustration and inner stress. And at a higher level, we are all learning many lessons from these dysfunctional actions. It’s just really time, though, to forge ahead in clearing it out now. What better time than Now? And the mercury retrograde is particularly a great time to do this.
So take the time to work on yourself. Get someone to trade with you, use a skilled practitioner or come to a practicum. We all need support as we do things interdependently.
With blessings and love,
Coming in next month’s newsletter: It’s much easier to be in a healthy relationship rather than a dysfunctional one once you identify and learn the skills.
Doctor brings a paradigm business change into his practice of restoring eyesight in India
Almost incomprehensively ambitious vision unsupported by any sort of business plan may sound like a vision doomed to fail. Yet more than 35 years after the first Aravind Eye Clinic was set up in South India, Dr. Govindappa Venkataswamy’s (Dr. V) mission to eliminate curable blindness in the country is surpassing even the most optimistic expectations. This excerpt from Infinite Vision: How Aravind Became the World’s Greatest Business Case for Compassion describes how a precisely defined set of creative constraints, including never refusing to provide care, never compromising on quality, and never relying on outside funding for patient services, became the basis for a world-class organization. The story of Aravind’s success, characterized by all the hallmarks of sustainability – financial health, massive scale, continued relevance, and longevity – demonstrates that charity and business can indeed be compatible. http://www.dailygood.org/story/442/the-power-of-creative-constraints-pavithra-mehta-and-suchitra-shenoy/
50 Weird Facts about Your Body
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A Brain Region has been found that may control aging throughout the whole body
A signaling pathway in the brain region known as the hypothalamus could speed up or slow down aging in mice. If it applies in humans, the discovery could open up possibilities for slowing age-related diseases and increasing life span. An immune system pathway in the hypothalamus also has a role in controlling aging. Usually, the immune system is involved in fending off infection or damage, but studies have also linked inflammatory changes with age-related conditions, including cardiovascular disease and neurodegenerative diseases. Still, these changes weren't known to actively trigger aging.
NASA confirms that Super-Human Abilities gained through Sun Gazing
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New Physics Complications Lend Support to Multiverse Hypothesis
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Heracleion Photos: Lost Egyptian City Revealed After 1,200 Years Under Sea Spectacular! The city was rediscovered in 2000 by French underwater archaeologist Dr. Franck Goddio and a team from the European Institute for Underwater Archeology. The ruins of the lost city were found 30 feet under the surface of the Mediterranean Sea in Aboukir Bay, near Alexandria. By lying untouched and protected by sand on the sea floor for centuries, they are brilliantly preserved. http://seriouslyforreal.com/seriously-for-real/heracleion-photos-lost-egyptian-city-revealed-after-1200-years-under-sea
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Breeding the Nutrition Out of Our Food
If we want to get maximum health benefits from fruits and vegetables, we must choose the right varieties. Studies published within the past 15 years show that much of our produce is relatively low in phytonutrients, which are the compounds with the potential to reduce the risk of four of our modern scourges: cancer, cardiovascular disease, diabetes and dementia. The loss of these beneficial nutrients did not begin 50 or 100 years ago, as many assume. Unwittingly, we have been stripping phytonutrients from our diet since we stopped foraging for wild plants some 10,000 years ago and became farmers. These insights have been made possible by new technology that has allowed researchers to compare the phytonutrient content of wild plants with the produce in our supermarkets. The results are startling. http://www.nytimes.com/2013/05/26/opinion/sunday/breeding-the-nutrition-out-of-our-food.html?_r=2&