ANNOUNCEMENTS FOR SPIRITUAL GROWTH
There will be no Paradigm Shifters gathering until August 8th. I had announced in the previous newsletter that I will be taking a Sabbatical in July to write my next book for ThetaHealers. I have appreciated your support and look forward to being available for teaching practicums and working with clients again in August.
ACCREDITED THETAHEALING CLASSES
All courses are accredited by the ThetaHealing Institute of Knowledge® and can be applied toward the ThetaHealing® Master program. If you have not taken the Basic or Advanced in 5 years. you are due for renewal in order to keep the name ThetaHealing on your website or practice. Discounts are given if under 5 years. More information at http://www.thetadnaactivation.com/workshops.html
Basic-July 17-19 Friday-Sunday in Mt. View, CA.
Advanced- Aug 21-23 Friday-Sunday in Santa Rosa, CA
NEW-Digging Deeper-October 10-11th in Santa Rosa, CA.
Advanced-Oct 30-November 1st in Bishop, CA.
BLOG FOR THE SOUL
Quote of the Month: “I am not interested in enlightenment if it means detachment from the emotional body, the earth plane, the challenges of being human. I am interested in Enrealment, because it means that my most spiritual moments are inclusive, arising right in the heart of all that is human: joy and sorrow, shopping list and unity consciousness, fresh mangoes and stale bread. Enrealment is about living in all aspects of reality simultaneously rather than only those realms that feel the most comfortable. We are not just the light, or the mind, or the emptiness, or perpetual positivity. We are the everything. It’s ALL God, even the dust that falls off my awakening heart.” (an excerpt from 'Love it Forward', by Jeff Brown)
I was visiting with a friend on skype. We meet quite often collaborating on some ideas, sharing spiritual awareness, being present with each other…it’s a newer, continually growing, rich relationship both through friendship and other connections.
She had been sharing that she wasn’t doing too well when we checked in…that her shoulder was really hurting her, and she hadn’t had time to go inside to ‘see’ what it was about. So we continued our conversation until we came to a place that she very gently approached something she was feeling around my responses. She wondered if I was feeling impatient in the conversation. We had been at an impasse on a certain topic. I realized that my voice was a bit tense. Her comment supported me to stop and to feel into myself quickly as I wanted to continue what we were doing to be able to resolve the concept issue at hand. I briefly realized I was feeling uneasy, not frustrated though. “No,” I responded deciding not to further any explanation of what I was feeling.
About 10 minutes later, while still continuing to resolve the same topic, she put her head down on her table, lifted it up a few seconds later holding her shoulder, and said, “I need to take 5 minutes. Can you just wait?”
I was open and didn’t ask why. I thought to myself, “Either she has to go to the bathroom or she’s picking up something and needs space to be with that.”
She came back into the room a few minutes later, sat down looking at me, “I’m wondering if you’d be willing to hear me around something.”
“Sure, are you ok?” I obviously realized at that point that she had left the room to take space and not go to the bathroom. I cared. She is a friend.
“I’m very sensitive these days, and I’m wondering if you felt I wasn’t wanting to work things out in the way we have been going over this. Something in the tone of your voice hit me wrong, as if you were being impatient and cross with me not coming up with an alternative solution quickly enough. Would you be open to reassuring me that that was not the case… because I thought it probably isn’t?”
I took a deep breath. I loved the way there was no blame but an openness and curiosity to find out what was really going on for me because it was obvious to her that, “Miss Clavel turned on the light and said something is not right.” (for all you Madeline fans in childhood)
“Let me check inside again.” I took a silent moment to drop in deeper because obviously she was wanting me to be clearer. An image of myself as a kid arose, of being cornered against two perpendicular walls and the urge to push back at an energy before me…her in the present moment. I brought myself back to being fully aware and asked, “Can I share with you the image and feeling I got?”
She was totally open, very welcoming, and I spoke to the experience and my feelings. “I felt cornered like there was no way out of this, confused, uncomfortable, agitated, like there’s an energy of, ‘it’s my way or the highway’ with no alternative choices to be able to discuss further in what might work.”
This was not an unfamiliar feeling because I grew up with parental control that was just like this and worse. I continued, “In my perception, what I heard was the same position from you without adding anything new as far as suggestions so we could come to a consensus. And unconsciously, I was pushing at you to get back so I could find a way out of the corner. I appreciate that you spoke to the energy you felt and gave me the space to see, feel, and share this with you.”
It wasn’t actually difficult to share my truth as I just intuitively sensed that she would be able to hear me. But it took her tenacity of what she was feeling and her courage to really speak to me about it. That is not always true for developing friendships, but it is true of my reality with close friends… I have emotionally intimate relationships that go back 15 to 47 years.
She was very appreciative that I could share what was happening for me without making her wrong or me denying what was really going on for myself. Like her, when one is very sensitive and intuitive, and people don’t necessarily share what’s really happening but it’s felt anyways. It can be a real point of contention, like there is crazy-making occurring, like someone is hiding what is true and waiting for the other to dump later, like the ‘pink elephant’ in the living room scene where everyone is saying things are fine and you’re waiting for WWIII to happen. I mean, doesn’t that happen in disconnective and dysfunctional family dynamics every day?
She explained that she was actually in the process of coming up with ideas to support another position so we could come to a consensus, but heard in my voice that I didn’t get this in her process of sharing. She had to speak to it before it went further. I was so grateful. She nipped it in the bud, and we got to each bring out our truths stepping into a deeper emotionally vulnerable place in not knowing how the other might respond.
Within seconds of just being present to this amazing dynamic that occurred, her shoulder released briefly. We were also able to see how perfect it was in what we were sharing prior to this situation. It was such a profound moment of connectiveness, realness, supportive communication and a sacred space fully open to receive and give from the heart. We completed our visit with deep gratitude and appreciations for all that we were present for in our connection.
This is ‘Enrealment’. This is what I want my life to be about on a daily basis. This is the kind of relationship that I want to nurture and feel nourished by, to have more of, to feel my heart stay open and know it’s received. This is all aspects of reality simultaneously. This is all God, Divine Intelligence, All that IS, working through, around and inbetween the pulses and pauses of the Breath of Life.
Extracting possible beliefs and adding Creator’s teachings:
I have to dismiss my own feelings to resolve issues at hand.
[What it feels like, how to, that it’s possible, that I can and do honor my feelings as an important aspect of resolving issues at hand]
My feelings are less than what information is being shared with another.
[What it feels like, how to, that it’s possible, that I can and do take into account my feelings and the information that is being presented in being able to speak to my feelings w/o blaming anyone.]
It’s more important to finish a task at hand than be present with another.
What is happening in the outer always takes precedence over what is happening on the inner.
[What it feels like, how to, that it’s possible, that I can and do respect my innerscape, give it equal presence while still relating to the outer world.]
Relationships take too much work to grow.
[What it feels like, how to, that it’s possible, that I can and do take the time to learn the skills necessary to have supportive, authentic relationships that are fun and emotionally intimate.]
Resolving an issue has to be a struggle in order to be heard.
[What it feels like, how to, that it’s possible, that I can and do have the skill to communicate what I need to be heard w/o blaming or guilting another]
Resolving an issue is always a conflict.
[What it feels like, how to, that it’s possible to know the differences between resolving an issue and being in a conflict.]
I have to go far away from myself to experience presence with another.
[What it feels like, how to, that it’s possible, know when, that I can and do know that it’s safe to listen/feel within myself to be present in my inner and outer world.]
It’s difficult to speak to what I feel is true in a situation… without blaming another.
[What it feels like, how to, that it’s possible, know when, that I can and do speak what is true for me with discernment and without blaming another, that I have the skills to do this along with the courage and strength.]
I have to compromise in situations to get what I want.
[What it feels like, how to, that it’s possible, that I can and do know the difference between compromising and consensus agreements, that I never compromise any part of myself to get what I want, that it’s safe to do this and using consensus to stay with myself and my needs and wants.]
Presence is healing. (it’s true)
[What it feels like, how to, that it’s possible, to know when, that I can and do experience the healing of presence, that I am conscious and capable to feel the power of presence, that I stay present without needing to be perfect and accept this as part of being present.]
With deep care and gratitude,
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LIFE AFTER DEATH
Where Do We Go When We Die? A Look At The Soul’s Journey After Death
Dr. Pim van Lommel, a cardiologist in the Netherlands, conducted the largest hospital-based study of NDEs (Near Death Experiences), years after hearing a patient report seeing a tunnel, a light, and beautiful colors and hearing wonderful music during a clinical death in 1969. Dr. Lommel was inspired to research the matter further after hearing a detailed near death experience of someone who had been clinically dead for six minutes. Over the years Dr. Newton noted similarities among client’s descriptions, ultimately putting together a picture of the process that our soul goes through from the moment we ‘die’ to the moment we are ‘reborn’. These are the stages that he described