ANNOUNCEMENTS FOR SPIRITUAL GROWTH
Due to being away to study at the ThetaHealing Insitute, the next Paradigm Shifters gathering will be on Saturday, October 3rd from 11 to 1:30 with an organic potluck after. The theme is “The Patterns within the story-how to identify them.” We will do body scans and digging. The cost is $30 and all money goes to the Grant/scholarship fund. Please RSVP no later than Wednesday, September 30th if you plan on attending .
I welcome all students of ThetaHealing®. Besides having time to work on yourself, remember that the more you practice, the better practitioner you will become, and the more that ThetaHealing® can be incorporated into your life to change it. Having facilitation is important to make your practice more skillful and having a supportive group of like-minded people helps to make it safe to delve into issues.
ACCREDITED THETAHEALING WORKSHOPS
All courses are accredited by the ThetaHealing Institute of Knowledge® and can be applied toward the ThetaHealing® Master program. If you have not taken the Basic or Advanced in 5 years. you are due for renewal in order to keep the name ThetaHealing on your website or practice. Discounts are given if under 5 years. More information at http://www.thetadnaactivation.com/workshops.html
NEW ELECTIVE: Digging Deeper-October 24-25; Saturday-Sunday
Basic- December 6-8th; Friday-Sunday
BLOG FOR THE SOUL
Quote for the month: When you lovingly disengage, your intent is to take loving care of yourself.~ Margaret Paul, Ph.D
I don’t know about you, but I really work on my skills to be present, to think things out and respond…to those I converse with inperson, by email, in my social and professional circles. It’s really a big deal for me. I’ve got this Mercury in Capricorn in my 1st house of communication. I want to communicate in ways that create connection…unless I don’t care about the person though I’d still be respectful.
I often ask questions of others so I understand where they are coming from…like ‘I wonder if’’ and give space for them to tell me if this is close to what is going on or share what is then true. And for some, particularly when it’s through email, I’ve run into the ‘no response’ mode even if I question several times, gently, curiously, not demanding or confronting. Of course, that could be up for interpretation by the recipient depending on where they are at.
I then need to make decisions that comes from that place of no response so that I take care of myself in associating or dis-associating from them consciously. That’s a hard one when I don’t understand the silence. It's an easy place to slip into old thought patterns of self-blame or quietly make the other wrong if I don't stay conscious of that internal voice and what it brings up for me.
It seems that in the past few months, this has shown up several times, almost like a pattern in attempting to communicate with others. I wondered if I would have asked the questions in person, what would have been the difference. Would they have just stared at me, been silent, looked away, or told me that my wonder created discomfort? Or would they have looked me in the eyes and told me their truth coming from and about themselves? Or would they have made me wrong for asking and wanted to blame?
One can work their beliefs, just like the ‘mock up’ that we do to see how a person feels differently after a digging; but then stepping into action, which communication is, becomes necessary.
With emotional avoidance, which is a form of disconnection or withdrawal from connection, there can be different perspectives of intention. Some kinds have physical avoidance as part of it.
It can be about oneself…which I think, ultimately, if it is explored more deeply, particularly when nothing dangerous is coming from the other, would be true. It can be used as a boundary, to create safety from another. ( ie I don’t answer you because your response would be critical, judgmental, emotionally or physically volatile, or confronting…where it’s none of your business thus unsafe in furthering the conversation.) Silence is the boundary to signal the other to stay back.
It can be used as a punishment towards another, both consciously and unconsciously…the silent treatment. Rather than speaking what is truly there to say, in going for resolution, it becomes a way to punish the other in a passive-aggressive way.
Or it can be a time out to think things through and then decide to take action if it seemed appropriate, which could include responding. I would think that this really isn’t emotional avoidance if it’s in process, more like a conscious disengagement, though it could seem that way for the other person waiting for a response.
It can also be a way to stay in denial about important issues both consciously and subconsciously. Again, this can be a safety issue if the other person isn’t ready to know or deal with something.
I think that what got clear for me in having this happen several times, particulary in a Venus retrograde, is that if I am willing to be emotionally open, be clear in sharing my truth or question, ask and respond with curiosity and wonder even if the other is unable to go there (and if it’s a relationship that I care about), I have taken care of my part. I can stop any place where I might have taken on undue responsibility (for something I am not even sure what it was), and allow the other to be where they are at. It isn't about me or my issue to further the energy about why the other is unable to respond or complete things. This brings clarity, self acceptance and freedom to move on knowing that I did what I could…an important self love piece for me.
Always learning and growing,
Extracting possible beliefs from the story...from two angles--communicator and (non-) respondent…Energy test yourself, change beliefs if applicable, and/or use Creator's teachings (the below are just guidelines):
I have to blame myself for how others respond to me.
I know the difference between self blame and self responsibility
Another’s emotional avoidance is my fault.
I can differentiate between my actual part in a situation and how another’s actions trigger for me.
I take on undue responsibility in how others choose to be silent in a situation.
I know the difference between taking responsibility for my part and taking on undue responsibility to avoid feeling guilty.
Changing my beliefs alleviates me from being in communicative response with another.
I know what it feels like, how to, that it’s possible, that I do and can live without using emotional bypassing to avoid communicating with another.
I know when, how to, what it feels like, that I do and can to be discerning when to consciously disengage from a communication rather than withdrawing out of unresolved issues.
Emotional avoidance and withdrawal are the best way to feel safe in disagreements.
I know what it feels like, how to, that it’s possible, to feel safe in situations that are asking my presence to be available.
Questions asked of me that are uncomfortable are always confrontational.
I know the difference between questions that are confrontational and sincere questions of wonder and true communication.
I know what it feels like, how to, that it’s possible that I can and do discern the intentions of others through All that IS.
I need to punish others in asking me questions I’m unprepared to answer.
I know how to complete issues without making another wrong.
I need to punish myself in others asking me questions I’m unprepared to answer.
I know how to complete issues without punishing myself.
I use passive-aggressiveness towards others to stay safe.
I know what it feels like, how to, that it’s possible to live without being defensive or aggressive to stay safe. I can stay present to communicate my feelings without blame.
Parallel worlds exit and interact with our world
A new theory on the block, called the "many interacting worlds" hypothesis (MIW) is a spinoff of the many-worlds interpretation in quantum mechanics — an idea that posits that all possible alternative histories and futures are real, each representing an actual, though parallel, world. One problem with the many-worlds interpretation, however, has been that it is fundamentally untestable, since observations can only be made in our world. Happenings in these proposed "parallel" worlds can thus only be imagined. MIW, however, says otherwise. It suggests that parallel worlds can interact on the quantum level, and in fact that they do.
Astronomers have found a parallel Universe
A group of astronomers believe they have found a parallel solar system following the evidence showing the presence of an object, believed to be similar to planet Jupiter orbiting a twin star. University of Chicago based lead author Megan Bedell, says in the release: “After two decades of hunting for exoplanets, we are finally beginning to see long-period gas giant planets similar to those in our own Solar System thanks to the long-term stability of planet hunting instruments like HARPS. This discovery is, in every respect, an exciting sign that other solar systems may be out there waiting to be discovered.
The Role of Forgiveness: By defining forgiveness and by focusing on its possibility and relevance in a post conflict situation, it becomes a topic within the framework of social reconciliation–a collective attempt to rebuild a mutually beneficial and co-operative civil society–by examining the concept of justice, by drawing upon psychological models of interpersonal forgiveness, and by considering other strategies for social healing. The traditional model of “justice as fairness” is questioned in its effectiveness to stop cycles of revenge and violence within a country. A more recent evolution of a “justice as reconciliation” paradigm developed by Mahmood Mamdani and derived from the South African experience, is explored as an approach that can embrace the process of forgiveness within the construction of reconciliation.
Future events decide what happens in the Past
Scientists have proven that, what is happening to a particle now, isn't governed by what has happened to it in the past, but by what state it is in the future – effectively meaning that, at a subatomic level, time can go backwards. To bamboozle you further, this should all be going on right now in the subatomic particles which make up your body. http://www.digitaljournal.com/science/experiment-shows-future-events-decide-what-happens-in-the-past/article/434829
Male and female brains wired differently, scans reveal
The outcome of the study seemed to fit the old sterotype- men's brains apparently wired more for perception and co-ordinated actions, and women's for social skills and memory, making them better equipped for multitasking. "If you look at functional studies, the left of the brain is more for logical thinking, the right of the brain is for more intuitive thinking. So if there's a task that involves doing both of those things, it would seem that women are hardwired to do those better," Verma said. "Women are better at intuitive thinking. Women are better at remembering things. When you talk, women are more emotionally involved – they will listen more." Male and female brains showed few differences in connectivity up to the age of 13, but became more differentiated in 14- to 17-year-olds.
Your Brain or Fiction: words as stimulation of the brain through texture, smells and movements. A team of researchers from Emory University using (fMRI) machine reported in Brain & Language that when subjects in their laboratory read a metaphor involving texture, the sensory cortex, responsible for perceiving texture through touch, became active. Researchers have discovered that words describing motion also stimulate regions of the brain distinct from language-processing areas. The brain, it seems, does not make much of a distinction between reading about an experience and encountering it in real life; in each case, the same neurological regions are stimulated. The novel, of course, is an unequaled medium for the exploration of human social and emotional life. And there is evidence that just as the brain responds to depictions of smells and textures and movements as if they were the real thing, so it treats the interactions among fictional characters as something like real-life social encounters.